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Be your own friend

I guess this poem is about a few different things. It’s about those moments when you’re content to just sit in silence and think your thoughts and feel your feelings without feeling the pressure to say them out loud. It’s also about the importance of being your own friend, to listen your body and to your soul and making the conscious effort to look after yourself and to not feel pressure to meet the needs of others. Sometimes, breathing deeply is all you need to remind yourself that you are still living and that there is a whole world in which you are alive in.  Finally, it’s a reminder that even when sometimes people who stutter are forced into silence because we just can’t seem to get our words out, our thoughts, feelings, opinions and ideas are still worth thinking about.  We are still worth a place on this Earth.  We are still worth living. Photo by Anastasiya Lobanovskaya Be your own friend It’s in those moments, when I choose not to talk, to sit in silence, and let m
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I am woman...and I stutter

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We deserve to be heard.

Your words have purpose. No matter how they come out or why you speak them.  Your words have meaning. No matter how long they take to come out. Your words are worth listening to. No matter how they may sound. Your words hold power. Even if the fluidity of them is broken, Even if the fluency of them falters. Your words are yours and yours alone. You do not need to prove that your words are worthy.  I deserve to be heard.  You deserve to be heard,  We deserve to be heard.  Simply just by being alive.   

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